Whatever happened since birth was bound to occur, destined several events are determined even prior to birth e.g. mother’s womb, father, siblings and the place of birth. Can we change any of these?
People always behave as per their thought process, upbringing and social setup. That is different from how we perceive them to behave. To be exact, our helpers and obstacles are people around us. It is our efficiency whether we secure help from them or succumb to their obstacles. Our nature plays a crucial role. If by nature we have a tendency to manipulate matters to suit our purpose we are able to manage their support. We would resort to all kinds of efforts, like begging, bowing, kissing the feet, sycophancy or even threatening. But if by nature, one is timid and docile, he wouldn’t beg for the favor, he would rather feel ashamed. One may not ask for help, thinking the other person would realize for himself that the needy is in trouble. A hesitant person is cautious about his sense of honor and dishonor and does not reveal his genuine worries. Being self-centered he bears his cross alone.
Lack of communication in the family spoils the order in the system. In our days it used to be just one way. There are three 'speakers' in the family- one who exercises control over the affairs as per his status or who is having control over the keys of the locker or aggressive one. Other members either succumb to their wishes or else they were mere spectators. Such dictatorial policy did not allow any kind of discussion. It was ordering and listening and complying. It is not possible to arrive at any solution for problems when there is no open environment for mutual discussion and expression.
Families which allow the democratic atmosphere to prevail interact with one another, make each one prosper. The prosperity of every other becomes a joint responsibility of the whole family. A better understanding can be observed in modern times where people have the freedom to speak, where everyone is sensitive towards other's pain and pleasure. This is of paramount importance for flourishing.
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In the early childhood, one has to tread the path laid down by parents and teachers. They direct the boat and navigate its course of direction. It is necessary to develop an ability to understand and assess and sharpen intelligence at the time of adolescence. This period poses its own challenges. One is required to be a scholar though he has no interest in studies. One is expected to be a champion in the spots though he has to catch his breath while running. One wants to be an efficient homemaker but it is too much of botherations. An average adolescent becomes adept in inventing excuses and shirks hard work which ultimately turn him into a lazy person. This habit of avoiding work continues all over the life. Ironically, one feels hurt if asked to do something. This retards the process of human development. The world can not afford too many idlers.
Youngsters develop bonding with their friends. During the teenage, Hormonal changes draw them to persons of the opposite sex. They start living in dreamy fiction which are far away from reality. Then creative energy revolves around gratification of sex desires. They lose the sense of direction unable to find an objective or the right path. In many cases, they stay in alleys and by-lanes. Quite a good number became yoked to pull the cart of domestic life.
One who works hard at his young age, enjoys his life later, whereas, if he cherishes rest in young age, he suffers in his life later. Lazy people have their own logic. They are offended when other make them realize their laziness. Such people go on dreaming grand projects and become an expert in inventing excuses. They plant the seeds of Babool, Acacia, expecting to reap the mangoes when it grows.
Every individual is a unique creation of nature. He is provided with immense mental and physical capacity. The human body is dictated by his mind. An individual who has control over mind, naturally control his body also. The mind is like a monkey which keeps sweeping from one branch to other. Great people has a stable mindset. The mind can be trained with practices like meditation. There is no alternative to hard work.
People always behave as per their thought process, upbringing and social setup. That is different from how we perceive them to behave. To be exact, our helpers and obstacles are people around us. It is our efficiency whether we secure help from them or succumb to their obstacles. Our nature plays a crucial role. If by nature we have a tendency to manipulate matters to suit our purpose we are able to manage their support. We would resort to all kinds of efforts, like begging, bowing, kissing the feet, sycophancy or even threatening. But if by nature, one is timid and docile, he wouldn’t beg for the favor, he would rather feel ashamed. One may not ask for help, thinking the other person would realize for himself that the needy is in trouble. A hesitant person is cautious about his sense of honor and dishonor and does not reveal his genuine worries. Being self-centered he bears his cross alone.
Lack of communication in the family spoils the order in the system. In our days it used to be just one way. There are three 'speakers' in the family- one who exercises control over the affairs as per his status or who is having control over the keys of the locker or aggressive one. Other members either succumb to their wishes or else they were mere spectators. Such dictatorial policy did not allow any kind of discussion. It was ordering and listening and complying. It is not possible to arrive at any solution for problems when there is no open environment for mutual discussion and expression.
Families which allow the democratic atmosphere to prevail interact with one another, make each one prosper. The prosperity of every other becomes a joint responsibility of the whole family. A better understanding can be observed in modern times where people have the freedom to speak, where everyone is sensitive towards other's pain and pleasure. This is of paramount importance for flourishing.
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In the early childhood, one has to tread the path laid down by parents and teachers. They direct the boat and navigate its course of direction. It is necessary to develop an ability to understand and assess and sharpen intelligence at the time of adolescence. This period poses its own challenges. One is required to be a scholar though he has no interest in studies. One is expected to be a champion in the spots though he has to catch his breath while running. One wants to be an efficient homemaker but it is too much of botherations. An average adolescent becomes adept in inventing excuses and shirks hard work which ultimately turn him into a lazy person. This habit of avoiding work continues all over the life. Ironically, one feels hurt if asked to do something. This retards the process of human development. The world can not afford too many idlers.
Youngsters develop bonding with their friends. During the teenage, Hormonal changes draw them to persons of the opposite sex. They start living in dreamy fiction which are far away from reality. Then creative energy revolves around gratification of sex desires. They lose the sense of direction unable to find an objective or the right path. In many cases, they stay in alleys and by-lanes. Quite a good number became yoked to pull the cart of domestic life.
One who works hard at his young age, enjoys his life later, whereas, if he cherishes rest in young age, he suffers in his life later. Lazy people have their own logic. They are offended when other make them realize their laziness. Such people go on dreaming grand projects and become an expert in inventing excuses. They plant the seeds of Babool, Acacia, expecting to reap the mangoes when it grows.
Every individual is a unique creation of nature. He is provided with immense mental and physical capacity. The human body is dictated by his mind. An individual who has control over mind, naturally control his body also. The mind is like a monkey which keeps sweeping from one branch to other. Great people has a stable mindset. The mind can be trained with practices like meditation. There is no alternative to hard work.
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