Since ages, terror is the key to reign. With the advent of the twentieth century, democracy began ushering replacing the monarchy as people began voicing against slavery. Communism sprouted hence ways and means were evolved to treat the labor class mildly. In 1910 a sociologist Elton Mayo conducted an experiment at a British factory and deduced that by extending ‘human touch’, workers can be induced to work more.
Serious discussions were arranged for evolving effective leadership skills. Several types of leadership were identified and strategies were developed to acquire competence in them. Several texts were written and innumerable exercises were attempted is political, social, business and family affairs. On the strength of these experiments new techniques and ways were developed so as to grasp some kind of miraculous formula so that an effective system of leadership could be established. I feel that we are still grappling and pursuing, ‘Do this, don’t do this.’
It is impossible to predict the response of a person to an action as human behavior is extremely mysterious. Abraham Maslow always believed that if a man is fed on his bed without asking him to do anything, he will never get down from his bed. It is highly difficult to extract work out of these lazy people. It would be as difficult as extracting oil from sand.
I got several opportunities to address the participants on leadership skills. I tried to make my lectures as much effective as possible by pouring over books, analyzing and comprehending them to the best of my capacities. To be honest, I still consider that the best of me is yet to come. My training tools are not effective in my family. Neither my wife abides by what I say nor do my three children. If they concede, sometimes, I consider myself highly fortunate. Whenever I seek the consent of any family member, I calculate in my mind whether he would agree to it? If my mind says, ‘Yes, he will, I take the idea to him.’ If the outcome comes is negate, I just swallow the matter in my mind to save myself from any humiliation. In simple words, you can say that my leadership is dictated by the ‘supposed’ outcome of others. It gets a shining gesture when ‘approved’ or else it gets damned when ‘rejected’. The predicaments, I find myself in, cannot be allowed to persist in other organizations or institutions of government, administration or management.
I spent my childhood under the strict discipline of my grandfather and father. Their terror loomed over my head everywhere I went. At school, naughty ones would bully me and indulge in indecent acts calling me a Chikna, girly type, and would pinch my cheeks. Constant fear converted me into a coward. I would even fear the ‘fear’ or dread of all kinds. I never summoned the courage to engage in a combat. I developed an attitude of escape, running away from all possible dangers. This I still retain.
One can live in this world either by keeping others in terror or by succumbing to a terror of others. I think that in order to inspire leadership one must ask them how to terrorize because as long as you do not have the capacity to instill fear or to hurt others they would not bow to your leadership. Krishna’s Murli, the flute, has one kind of spell while Sudarshan Chakra, the missile, exercises a spell of a different kind.
When I became an adult I began shouldering responsibilities and opportunities for leadership greatly increased. One cannot keep his face sullen or show anger always, be at home or workplace. Hence I tried to keep my surroundings and mood as lively as possible. It was not I wasn’t aware of pressure tactics but I considered that such tactics do not work with an educated gentleman.
Serious discussions were arranged for evolving effective leadership skills. Several types of leadership were identified and strategies were developed to acquire competence in them. Several texts were written and innumerable exercises were attempted is political, social, business and family affairs. On the strength of these experiments new techniques and ways were developed so as to grasp some kind of miraculous formula so that an effective system of leadership could be established. I feel that we are still grappling and pursuing, ‘Do this, don’t do this.’
It is impossible to predict the response of a person to an action as human behavior is extremely mysterious. Abraham Maslow always believed that if a man is fed on his bed without asking him to do anything, he will never get down from his bed. It is highly difficult to extract work out of these lazy people. It would be as difficult as extracting oil from sand.
I got several opportunities to address the participants on leadership skills. I tried to make my lectures as much effective as possible by pouring over books, analyzing and comprehending them to the best of my capacities. To be honest, I still consider that the best of me is yet to come. My training tools are not effective in my family. Neither my wife abides by what I say nor do my three children. If they concede, sometimes, I consider myself highly fortunate. Whenever I seek the consent of any family member, I calculate in my mind whether he would agree to it? If my mind says, ‘Yes, he will, I take the idea to him.’ If the outcome comes is negate, I just swallow the matter in my mind to save myself from any humiliation. In simple words, you can say that my leadership is dictated by the ‘supposed’ outcome of others. It gets a shining gesture when ‘approved’ or else it gets damned when ‘rejected’. The predicaments, I find myself in, cannot be allowed to persist in other organizations or institutions of government, administration or management.
I spent my childhood under the strict discipline of my grandfather and father. Their terror loomed over my head everywhere I went. At school, naughty ones would bully me and indulge in indecent acts calling me a Chikna, girly type, and would pinch my cheeks. Constant fear converted me into a coward. I would even fear the ‘fear’ or dread of all kinds. I never summoned the courage to engage in a combat. I developed an attitude of escape, running away from all possible dangers. This I still retain.
One can live in this world either by keeping others in terror or by succumbing to a terror of others. I think that in order to inspire leadership one must ask them how to terrorize because as long as you do not have the capacity to instill fear or to hurt others they would not bow to your leadership. Krishna’s Murli, the flute, has one kind of spell while Sudarshan Chakra, the missile, exercises a spell of a different kind.
When I became an adult I began shouldering responsibilities and opportunities for leadership greatly increased. One cannot keep his face sullen or show anger always, be at home or workplace. Hence I tried to keep my surroundings and mood as lively as possible. It was not I wasn’t aware of pressure tactics but I considered that such tactics do not work with an educated gentleman.
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